1. You are worth a fortune and a half.
There is no other person on this earth that is at good at being you than you. Dr. Seuss said this, Everyone has their own talents, and there is something that you can do that other people only dream of doing. You are an individual. Don't conform, and don't try to go against what people are doing to avoid conformity. That just means you're conforming to nonconformity.
2. You are strong.
There is not one thing that you cannot handle. You are given these trials because God knows that you have the strength to overcome them. Do not ever ask yourself or God "Why me?". Instead, ask yourself if you are going to let the situation beat you up and leave you for dead or if you are going to rise above it and learn from it.
3. Don't cut yourself off from everyone that you know and love.
Those people are there to help you rise above from your sorrows. Even if you cannot confide in them all, there is always one person willing to listen. I know that your mom isn't the first person that you would choose to tell all of your secrets to, but there is nothing that can take away the love that your mother has for you.
4. Find an outlet.
Sometimes having a hobby can be the most therapeutic antidote for your troubles. Dabble in things you normally why shy away from. Try to paint, draw, write poetry, sing, take up the guitar. This gets your mind off things and helps you discover your own value and self worth.
Here's the first painting I did to get my mind off things going on in my life.
|Mixed Media Sunflower|
Water Color, Acrylic, & Rice Paper
You may or may not have a boyfriend. He may or may not have said "I love you." He thinks he means it, and you think you mean it when you say it back, but in reality it's just infatuation. I know you feel like you need that attention, but that's what friends are for. Boys only make things more complicated. Instead of going on dates alone with the boy, go out with several friends including him. The outing will be way less awkward (and cheaper!) and you will get to know each other better that way. Don't exclusively date until you're ready for a commitment such as marriage or a major heart break. And for those who think sex is necessary, it's not. If you still think it is, just ask yourself if a baby is necessary. No birth control is 100% effective except abstinence. Someday, a man will come along and make you forget about every time your heart was broken. He will complete your life but more importantly, when it's time, he will make sure that you know that you're really the one that completes his. Just remember, you can't rush love. If you force it, it won't be true.
6. Only do things you're comfortable with.
Even if your friends are doing something and they really want you to go, nothing is worth trading your dignity for. Learn how to say NO. There will be several opportunities for you to do the right thing. What could possibly persuade you to want to do the opposite of what you know is right? If it is illegal, immoral, or insane, don't do it.
7. If you have to lie, don't.
Trust is a complex thing. People only give you their trust once. If you're lucky, they may trust you again but it won't be like before. Lying can only make things worse. Don't take shortcuts or rationalize a decision. If you have to rationalize, you are only telling yourself rational lies. The worst thing about lying is that when you lie to others, you are ultimately lying to yourself. This includes telling half of the truth or excluding some of the facts.
8. Be confident.
Even if you're not confident, fake it. People respect people with confidence, but don't be overly confident. After faking the confidence for the first couple times, it will come to you naturally. When you believe in
yourself and what you are capable of, you will realize that you are awesome! No one can take that away from you once you realize that. But they can make you think otherwise before you learn it. Make it a point to realize your greatness before others try to tell you that you are anything less.
9. Don't compare yourself to others.
If you always compare yourself to others, you will never be happy with yourself and/or your accomplishments. And if you are comparing yourself to others accomplishments and you're proud of yourself, you may need to reevaluate your motives. Albert Einstein said this, "Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." You have the ability to do it, so what's stopping you from trying?
10. You are beautiful.
No explanation needed. Just never forget that.
Here are some inspirational words from Mother Teresa